waqt aur kismet

haan , woh bhi kuch suhane din the humare zamane mein jab kalam se likhte the dil ke armaan, jahan per machalte dil ke masoom khayal , sharato se bhare shabdo mein manzil ki talaash kerte the. Kuch manzil tak pahaunch te the, kuch recycle bin mein aur kuch mummy papa ke haath. Kahin ek do aashiq , bhai ya bahen ke haath mein prem patra padne se bhi shikaar huwe, to kahin per baat ban gayi. shabdo ki kala se to nawaaza nahi gaya is bande ko, jo fir bhi kabhi ek na-kaam si koshish ker leta hai is zindagi ko samajhne ki. kuch to baat hai is dharti per, jo shayad upper baitha farishta bhi bata nahi sakta. Itne bada hai faila huwa yeh jaal, aur kahan ek sire se doosra judta chala jaata hai, aur fir kaise kahan kam kaun sa sira khula reh jaaye koi nahi jaanta. Kismet, log kehte hai bada saath deti hai, mere se poocho to bhagwan kismet hai, aur kismet hi bhagwan hai. Jo aap subah se prarthana kerte ho, jiske liye mehnet karte ho aur jo aapko milta hai, aapke peeche se sab usse kismet hi to kehte hai. per kabhi kabhi yeh kismet dokha de deti hai, is waqt ke saamne. waqt, jo kismet ko maat de bhi deta hai aur nahi bhi. sahi waqt per kismet ka milan ho to hum unchaaiyan choo jaate hain, per waqt ek cheez mein sabko maat de deta hai. uski nirantar pragati ki aur badti chaal, usko na kismet , na bhagwan na koi aur rok sakta hai. Hum kuch log uske saath ched khaani kerte hai, daylight saving jaise bhi kuch kaam kerte hai, per yeh waqt nahi rukta.
mein bhi aise hi padaav per hoon zindagi ke , jab waqt ko chahta hoon ki kuch der ruk jaaye, isliye nahi ki mein duniya ki sabse khoobsoorat ladki dekh raha hoon, ya fir mera sabse jigri dost mere saath hai, ya mein apne parents ke saath vacation per hoon, per mein chahta hoon ki waqt ruke aur mein thoda aagey aur chalun. jeet ki tamanna to hai, per nazarein bhatak rahi hai, ya manzil dagmaga rahi hai. waqt hamesha ki tarah badal raha hai, aur badalta rahega. mein yeh nahi bata sakta ki mein kahan jaunga, kya karunga , kaise karunga .... kuch nahi hai ... bus ek cheez hai kahin kisi kone mein ki jab bhi mein jaun ... haste huwe jaaun, aur aise jaun ki us waqt mein to jaun , per waqt ruk jaaye .... waqt ruk jaaye

Personalised Email - Cheap and Secure

Well , how many reading this article here have a personalised email account. I have , it is called deepakg83@gmail.com.

Is it personal. Do you think it is. Is is google mail account for you, the day google fails (God forbid it does not, but in case it does) , your mail id will probably be void, and all your mails would stand deleted.

This is not the only reason to have a private email account , there is one most severe reason for you to pay up a small amount to maintain your mail account, and that is PRIVACY.

Have a look at the screenshot from a typical gmail account, there are 3 ovals. Look at these ovals, if you are able to read those , these links actually tell me how insecured my data is. It reads what is there in the email, finds the advertisement related to the content and post it. So much so that i have stopped using gmail for any sensitive mail.

This fact is known by one and many in the industry, if u look in yahoo mail , you will also see image ads

Personalised Email will not only give an identity which you want to be yours forever. Like deepak@deepakg83.com , it also looks more professional and assures the sender the data is safe.

If you are in a business or in IT field , you really don't want someone to come and ask you about the security threat your mail ID has, if you have your personalised email .

Now the cost factor:

If you opt for a personal mail id from any other site other than www.spinyourwords.com , then it comes ideally for 8.99$/year, but if you buy an entire website from me , it comes for free. Now what would an entire website cost, it costs just 1.99$ /year for info domains and 7.49$/yr for .com domains. What else, you get your own domain name , a personalised email ( 1 GB Space, spam free , ad free ) and 1 personal blog. Along with this , you get 1 GB shared space for hosting your website , for free.

2$ to 8$ per year ( for .info and .com respectively) , not a big cost to have secure and safe email for life.

Web Identity

Lets see what is web identity. If you are reading this article i assume you are well aware of what a search engine is , in case you are not, Search engine is web portal designed to search through millions of available web pages to provide you with the information required.

Have you ever typed your name in google and tried to look out for yourself, or have you known a friend having a personal website and his personal email. Have you ever wondered why is it necessary, or why should one go for it. After all gmail , yahoo mail and other mail services also provide you with an email facility (though it comes with risk of your data and sensitive information spilling all over the net), i will tell you how and why I say like that, later.

So getting a gmail id , a yahoo id , an orkut id , facebook or twitter account takes your identity directly on the web, it helps to console that you are on web, but that is you are connected to another identity. Its not your identity, afterall. And how much it costs you to have a web identity, anywhere from 2$ to 10$, depending on the domain you wanna choose.

If you consider on a flat note , a dinner for two would be more expensive than your personal website. Your home address on the internet, come on . Tell the world you exist , as I do.

I always wanted to be something like deepakgupta.com or deepak-gupta.com , but i was late in getting a name. I had to take a name as www.deepakg83.com , but then there was something in the world which www.spinyourwords.com had to offer me, it was my name domain. http://www.deepakgupta.name It just gives me immense pleasure to have a website of my name. Surely you can also have one for you , and very cheaply, as low as 2$ , and its really very simple to set it up and maintain it, as it will be just a few html pages.

I have my own company (www.spinyourwords.com) for selling domain names to people who wanna have a web identity, for no profit , and that these people can not only have a web identity , but can earn also from what they own.

And earning from the websites is not an expensive thing to do, even though slow,but steady. And well directed efforts can get you hundreds or probably thousands of dollars a month , once you start and in full flow. Tips to it follows next.

Before I wind up, there is an easy way to get yourself up and going on the internet, now and forever , for as low as 1.99$ , with a personalised email (which ideally comes for 8.99$ /yr), a personal blog , and a shared server space for hosting 1 GB ( which generally range from 4$ to 70$ a month) ... all up and free for registering a domain name at www.spinyourwords.com

Why Should I sell a business idea for no profit ?

Well , its simple , I do it as my social responsibility. But once you take part in my plan to get all indiviuals a personal domain name, I expect few things from you, other than the money you pay to purchase the website (at no profit no loss basis to me )

1. Tell your friends about the usefulness of having a web identity
2. If you are able to earn , which ideally you should be , then help others also learn. If i will guide you how to get started to make money , I surely would like you to tell others also, so that they can also earn.
3. Try to get a few friends to get started, like those who dont know basics of HTML , help them. A small effort will bring a big smile on many faces , and a bigger satisfaction on your end.

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Next in series -- importance of personalised Email

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Decision Maker - MSN Bing

MSN brings to you a search engine , oops , i should say a decision maker. One decision maker that will enable you to have a wonderful navigation experience across the world wide internet. The distances across geographies dwindling, and when we need to search for valid results for the query, Bing claims to provide authenticate results. Cheaper flight tickets, easy to schedule the trips and above all, group the results , not by popularity but by utility. It will then serve as Yellow Pages of internet, wherein it helps you get the correct result. 

The decision Maker Engine as it is being marketed , aims to help you decide. It will group the search results in the order it feels will be logical. A camera search will help you locate chear camera with most cashback options , a resturant ticket helps you with the map and directions, helps you with questions which might have multiple answers. 

Few Questions that come out : 

1. what happens in case of query result having similar results. 

2. Will it give more preference to an advertised result 

3. Will the search engine algo not decoded by the ever growing sharp site master and organisations such as godaddy.

4. Is it Bullet Proof , and servers stable.

5. Will it also use something like PageRank to rank the websites , and then decide the utility based on any such computation

If the results are based on matrix, and then it might just give an edge to other websites to utilize the weakpoints. If today i want to search Google for specific files as .doc or .ppt or even .pdf , I can customise the search results. You may find one of such customised google search here at http://complete.spinyourwords.com/ . But will I be able to do the same thing with Bing. 

The other disadvantage i see with Bing is themes it might come up with , slowing it down. The screen looks fully filled with no space to navigate. Though navigation friendly, but full. 

We can just wait and watch if this Bing pings in our life or dies out silently. 

MSN Bing

Ever Wondered what could be next age Search. google redefined the art of search, starting with a very simple concept, and to become the market leader. One thing that made it overtake the Gates lecacy or will it. Nothing is forever, and so this should also not be. google has come up with many innovative ideas, the blackle , energy reserving search, and many other similar things. There were many other search engines like alta vista who were able to get to the market, but google had sprinted out of the reach of the normal seach engines. Even Live Search was unable to stop google, and there were many reasons it was not successful. 

Live search was at par, if not better , than google search, but the speed of search, the rank algorithm and other factors kept the competition at bay. Msn would load with itself a whole lot of other things which many would not prefer in this fast paced world. I want to seach for deepakg83 or his blogs , i would certaintly fail. 

Try searching for http://deepakg83.blogspot on yahoo search, and it fails to find the site. What more depths you need to remember a website.Well, the things will change. The better and more efficient takes over. The leader is not forever. But there can be someone ruling for a long time that redefines the way the world goes. 

Looking up in the initial preview of the Bing , it certainly offers me more than i think would make it popular. Search for flight tickets between two dates, it would search inside the websites to find you the results, search for a movie and it will give you not only the tickets, but also the movie halls and multiplexes where this movie can be screened. It takes you directly to the booking seat of the movie you want, or to the consultant in case you just have not used 911. With the local regional support, MicroSoft Network  Bing ( MSN Bing as i say it) , seems to take many things in account and then go directly in giving google a tough stand. 

Points where Bing need to worry more : 

1. The search engine algo, to set the things correct. With a huge number of websites, of expired domains, of the blogspots , indexing will not be easy, and there needs to be a very strong way to beat google.

2. The way it searched for images, video clips and other formats need to be tested.

3. The performance testing when millions of users use it, and many of them concurrently access it many tabs in the same browser, and many browsers in the same window.

Along the Bing would come another security threat, the threat of my DATA being exposed. It will take me directly to the consultant, and thus breaking one level of security. SQL injections need to be taken care of more precisely.

When i see Orkut today, i see many friend requests coming up daily, and i see many accounts getting hacked. The share of market which MSN has today is immense, with Outlook still being a premier choice to many hundreds. MSN Bing can either take everything in MS stride or let it fall apart, making the way a bit more difficult to the MS in near future. Anyhow I see , as of now , Bing is coming , and is here to stay.

(This article is written by Deepak Gupta, for www.msnbing.net You need to include author's site url and his refernce while posting the same on any website or forwarding. It is protected by IP rights. )

Jan Gan Man Video Causing Trouble

I dont know if this song depicts true india, but this song seems to me a real India. We need to rebuild ourselves , rise like phoenix, so that this song look more of a fiction than reality .... 

Susan Boyle 25 years ago

A new video of Susan when she was just 22 ... How about the voice 

Hanging Bamboo

In the middle of jungle , lemme introduce the trio . 

Ajit : in the foregound. 

Himanshu: in the background

Deepak : This is not covered by Discovery , so am holding the cam.

So join me in exploring the restless minds: 

Ajit is looking up through the bamboo , as if trying to ask God if he can talk to him from the tunnel or is he trying to figure out how deep is bamboo. He just like me and you have read bamboo grow  from the ground. How come this one is hanging from top. Look around all bamboo on ground. 

This one had a peg of whiskey or what , that take it to the top of the world. No , no. Oh My God , this one is hanging himself . 

Himanshu is still not sure why is he wondering , but we possibly know. the pressure ... of thinking hard forces body fluids out. He is looking for space. And Ajit is looking for a bamboo. 

So is that it ... i doubt . Let us have a look a moment later : 

Ajit is trying all his forces to save the bamboo from committing sucide, but nothing it seems can save the bamboo. Himanshu is still wondering in the woods. There are a few other bamboo there , and i think he is trying to figure out a bamboo for himself. Ajit has just claimed a bamboo. If you happen to go there , you will find Ajit embedded on it ...

I want to write a bit more .. but i will stop here. This is one of my most senseless post , but i will make it more senseless by adding another paragraph :So finally i was caught conspiring , and both decided it was time for me to go down the earth. The bamboo was gifted to me , and just after the pic i slipped down in a painful position , while holding the bamboo as the flag before surrender .

There are more random pics and more useless senseless posts coming up soon :) 

Whats In India

That roadside highway dhaba i cherish ,
and delhi bhatinda punjab mail ,
people storming in for one stop ...
and never getting off the seat ...
that tea one not having a change ..
shouting chai chai Chaaiiyaam ..
The khuller milk with cream and jalebi ,
you will never know the smiles on friends ...
and the newspaper one will go across the place ,
to return one buck , and tell them its fine ...
place where you leave a buck and people feel obliged ...
not like yours where tip is right ...
for from the station to the place dont need a cab ...
the auto does fine ... had all not on station ...
for return to Delhi is no less fun ...
and then to Bangalore for my second home ,
ok third home ... no more compromise ....

Imperfections ...

What are we today. A little less money , a little less happiness , a little less friend , a little less love, a little less sport. Is it . If you reading this and find even a single one true. Think . Once more , is it same .Yes , little less money ... dont compare yourself with anyone else. Compare it with yourself. And when you do that lets move a year back. 

Statuary warning : If your answer is no for all , Great. The article is THE END here. But if you are a little less yourself now, read on .

So little less money . How much more you wanted. Have you thought what is that figure which will make you smile. a million dollars, that is 5 crore indian rupees. What will you do then , think about it . A Big Car (get a loan dear) , a lavish house ( or home you still have) , the hunger goes on. 

Rewind Time : Go back to school days. What you had then. Nothing. Your parents or near-dear ones earned for you and you studied hard. You were happy then. What happened when you got a extra green bill for the Diwali sweets , or candy on hot summer night walking by the home. Then you did not care for these. I dont say you should not think about those things, but there is no reason to be sad if you dont have those. Plan pursposefully. Set goals , achieve them. make a backup plan. You dont become Bill Gates overnight. People tend to start late. Being happy is the the key , not being rich. Be sufficient. Still not contented.  Lets plan. 

Do you have a bank balance. If yes , then skip to happiness section. Invest the money , money makes more. The money in safe is degrading , put in fixed deposit if you have surplous. Now if you dont have, get a paper and pen out. make a future report. How much you earn , and how much you save. You will get a realistic approach of when you will have a bank balance . So plan. Dont be sad. 

A little less happiness .... What happened boss. Think of golden time when you scored a sole goal in a classroom match, of an untiring hundred in book cricket , an undefeated stretch of 15 games in Zero Katta , a win in Ludo , reaching the top in Snake n Ladder from that lucky number 21, and then getting back to 10 from number 99, think of small things. Think of friends . Think of me . We like others are always there. I might fade in light , look upto your brothers and parents. Blood is blood , and happiness is just there. We dont search for it , but just as the dark cloud would shield the sun from us , and make the day rainy, or there can be a bigger eclipse. The day appears night, dont let it stay. It will go off in a second, try not to look directly. Believe in yourself. Its a good thing to believe , to believe that you can, because when you start believing , you start planning , and start to learn and find ways. Happiness comes back in small packets in big way. When you start finding those packets , you radiate more energy than you think of . 

You know what is the best mantra of smiling. Think of friends who always were , but you left them enroute because of any reason. When you will call them , they will smile. Old friends never forget, and with them you re-live the smiles you smiled with them. Find school friends , college friends , or just friends. Think how they helped you  , and you helped them when it needed the most. think of those bunking lectures , those failed exams, those night before exams , those holis and those diwali ... now smile plz. 

Wanna read more ... gimme some time and some comments to carry on ... and when you do that , just smile 

My pillar My luck (touchwood)

when i think of her , few hair flew across her face. She put a hand towards her face and try to wave off them, but then left carelessly to fly around. I wondered it is a style statement or just to tell the world , the carefree attitude she carries, as if unpeturbed by the world around. I dont know pal , what she thinks for the world , but in this world i do think of her. Whenever i am out in big malls, and in sections of her style, i remember her. Her smiles , seeing the price tag and saying, "Areee nahi chaiye, bada mehnga hai" , or running across the mall , and getting a perfect Tee for me. Her enthusiasm and charm in each and every thing she said or do was just so undefeated. Her accent in typical punjabi style where she grew and wanted to go when finished her training. I dont know what made her get to Bangalore , but i had known it a year ago when she was to come to Bangalore that she will be a very good friend. I had shared so many things with her, like with no one else. She knows all the episode of the girl i liked, and consoled me when i was down. She was a face of life which told me to get up, cheer and start anew. She was always there (and still is) for me whenever i needed her. Most of my big plans had her in them , so originated for her , or by her. She was a dream come true friend (touchwood) anyone will cherish to have. Not only being beautiful, she is one with brains. If you happen to know flawless beauty i am talking about, then you must also know she is blessed with great personality, decency , innocence of a child and hear of gold. She will forgive ,if not forget. She tells me to go and fight in this world. She stands by my decision. She is one in a million friends. 

I wont say i am lucky to have a friend like you , but its God's grace for me to have known her. She has supported me well when one of my very close friend went out with her new found love, and when i was alone and sad. 

This girl has diagnosed many problems of mine, and i moved to BTM. I asked her if I should move in , she said yes. And without thinking a second , i went ahead. She has turned all in gold for me , my US visa was stuck , and when she was back from delhi, she said it will be done. It was. Trust me friend , i dare not say your name , many would believe you to be abstract. An angel of sorts with such qualities dont exist, and i will not disturb the illusion of those. But for those who know me , know you as a reality . I am sure you wont change , i believe in you. And as you always have done , keep my belief intact . 

The building blocks

It has been a long time in this world , 25 years done. Long time , but i am sure i learnt most in first five years then in next twenty. Still i dont remember anything from that. Today i write words and sentences in English , but when did i learnt them. My mom tells me , i did my ABCD at age of 2 , and numbers at 3. I started making sentences at 4 and by 5 i was giving oral exams. 

I now know love , and my friends think i know what is friendship, but i dont think i will be anywhere near to what my parents did. Selfless love to make me what i am today. 

I run on streets , drive bikes and have ability to stop. I sense danger , and i interpret love in its pure form , these came when i started tricycling. As Newton did an intgration over a period, so did we. I grew from 5 to 25 , and i saw many things. Broken bones , laughing friends , love , heart-break, friends , not so friends , politics , conspiracy , envy and many shades of life which tell us to learn. We opt most of the times to go with the emotions and not learn from it. we should start doing it . 

Lets start with basic thing :

 Never Expect . all know , but a few do. The greatest pleasure comes when u dont expect , and you get something. Its depression when you expect and dont get it in desired form ,and devastating when you dont get after expecting. 

Dont Lie ::::: Never Lie in frienship ,in relations , for people you care , and otherwise. Most of the close friendships die because of this. If u need to lie , then something is wrong in the friendship. Dont be afraid to tell the truth, things can always work out. Remember: People who matter dont mind , and people who mind dont matter . 

Love : Love all your friends , and if you develop feeling towards a particular friend , be bold and tell it. Most probably the person will refuse, but that is the best way to save a friendship. DONOT , i repeat DONOT forget your other friends if the person agrees to your love. And if the feelings are not reciprocated, love as a friend. 

Sacrifice : the last bite of a meal is shared , give away the last chip from a Lays packet, save last drop of water from the last bottle in a trip, make a cup of tea in middle of night. Trust me , the last chip wont fill your tummy as much as the love would once the other person understands. the thirst will go unquenched if you drink the last drop. 

Radiate : Make the positive vibes, be ready for friends forever . They teased a girl , principal coming.. stand by them. Make your friends believe in you , and never break it .

Above all , be a sport always. Trust me , a lost friend is "The Lost World". I have lost many , and as you read the heading of my blog , its for those Lost Worlds , i lost while gaining all these experineces. 

If you think its a worth , drop a comment down ... 

The Gardener

I really dont remember if i was born in someone five star hotel or with a silver spoon in my mouth. But i do remember that at each and every stage in my life , i have been bestowed upon with love , care and sacrifice showered upon me with really no return. What i say here might not be in context, and as my nature is i will be losing the track mid way for sure. But i now know the track , and i know the theme of this feeling . 

I really dont know how was i born , but i remember i grew up talking, and my parents listening to my teachers for not teaching me how to be quiet. What the hell teachers were supposed to do. Well , i kept on speaking more ,and more , and to a point when i started making friends. Each new friend would bring a new fairytale , and each going off embossing a big EXPERIENCE in my life. You know why when a girlfriend leaves a person m he calls her EX, it means Experience. We grow by it. I too have . I understand love , and i understand friendship. I understand the very basics of a complex life are too very simple. A balanced diet is not green vegetables and following a strict plan , it is when in a diet , you mix the play , the laughter , the smiles and above all happiness. A cup of tea has always been my trademark for making a mark , and so are smiles. I stick to a very basic principle in life , give and forgive. you have to understand the very healty things in life are just for free , but for those who can afford. Not everything that is free can be afforded , or appreciated. 

Free !!!! this term strikes gold. Appreciate something that someone does for you. Always !!! because this world is round , and so is life. I dont believe in God , the gardener. but i do believe what we do in life comes back. If i am bad today , and selfish , and try to do something immoral, it will go recorded in my history. Then 10 years later when i have changed , and i become good, something bad happens. I fail to understand why this is happening , and start cursing the God. Why did i not curse him for punishing me then and there when i made a mistake, when i forget to tell the person Thank You , when i took all the help from a single person , and still not appreciate it. 

Trust me , there can be no bigger sin than not to appreciate the selfless help. And as me , i try my best for others to have a share in it. I have had friends who have been reluctant , very selfish , and ignoring me. What does it makes out. I  come out stronger. i give them more than they can ignore. i creep in the lives and stay there . i rarely make friends ( contrary to basic understanding ,but true), but once i have them , its my responsibility. I try to stretch limits , i fail sometimes. i try to make them smile , i annoy sometimes. i am not the best , i may be the worst , but my friends are best for me. Having said that , i have tried my real best to understand the nature of ppl who take help and not appreciate. Its not deep in history. Its deepak gupta of 05 , deepak gupta05 to be precise. 

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Lalit used to do a lot of consessions for me , so was Harish ...thanks chap to help me out then

Then there was VAS VB , Hrishi , Aarthy did it for me ... u guys rocked 

VAS VB again .. hemant , gaurav , anurag and above all my SPM Basava.. . i was only non working full timepass member then 

IP - Kruti rocked . Maya was good . Anshu stayed back so many times ... 

Airbus - Preetham ,Nihar  -- solved my queries 

MEW --- Mani all the way. A man of stature. This is most selfless man , simple as it is and best in terms of team leader. appreciate u through out Mani .

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The Gardener sees all of us , and as such knows when to strike, and he will strike hard. He gives you a few chances , a few more hours , maybe months or years . decades ... dont be blinded ... you have not fooled him , he will strike. 

Fear the God ... Fear him as much as u can and before anything else happens ... level the scores... 

dont say me tomorrow i did not warn you ... 

The Deserted Water

Have you ever wandered to deep forest with only two of your friends , and the forest wild than than forest that exists in the world. Have you ever got kicked in the butt , and then scolded for letting that happen. Have you met with an accident, and your friends filled the hospital room with laughter, strong enough for you to be discharged un-treated. Have you planned everything on your friend's behalf , and then done childish acts to make them follow the plan. Have you went for a coffee with your friend's friend , and then forcing them to leave their date with the girl they were aiming to date , and make them come and sit you with. Have you ever went out delibrately without telling your friends , and taking air out of the wheels so that your friend leaves office and comes home to spend time with you. Have you ever decided for a 10PM movie at 9 PM with no chance of making it to threater by 10 , and forcing your friend to miss the most ancpitated movie. Have you driven a century Kms just to have a coffee because your friend said the name by mistake. Have you ever danced in the drenching rain with your friends. Have you spent a day with a special one making everything for her. Have you burst crackers in your hand. Have u taken a full cracker under your feet because your friend accidently lit it to protect her. Have you given your jacket in chill winter to already insulated friend with a worry she might get unwell. Have you been the last one to entry the reception party of close friend , and ended up washing dishes and contenting with sweet dish. Have you planned and never followed. Have you fought over for a 50 Paise coin with the shopkeeper for 2 hours. Have you spent your birthday in your friends birthday. Have you had a group hug everyday. Have you loved the way the princly treatment you got from your friends. Have you been humble in a relationship and yet so demanding. Have you made friends feel jealous of a type of friend you are. If answer to each of this question is yes , then you must surely be one of me . 

If not , carry on. 

Have you went on overnight trips with friends , and ended on wrong side of city. Have you planned an hour and spent three each time you had a tea break. Have you smoked the life out of you , and tension out of mind. Have you drank the problems with your life directly draining them with friends. Have you been alone in crowd , yet the centre of attraction. Have you had more than single to say you as his / her best friend ( i have a count of 8 who said so ) .... Have you helped and forgot. Have you helped and fogave . Have you helped and still remember. Have you loved someone and not told her . Has someone not loved you and told you. Have you shared a chocolate fantasy n number of times. Have you dared to look up in sky and point to Hunter constellation.

There are many things we need other than above to maintain a friendship. Opening a few points for all my friends who have asked me ... Ajit , this one goes specially for you ( you always will be as special to me , for you made me believe that i am correct in approach towards my friends )

•  Have you told all your friends they look best today , better than they looked yesterday 
  
• Give and Forgive 
• Lend a helping hand , not only to those who need , but to all your friends.
• Assure your friends you are always there , and back it up when time comes. 
• Never expect them to remember the help you did, its human nature for them to forget, but then a true friend would come back , and realise it later or sooner. 
• A small conversation once a week helps to nourish and deep the roots of friendship
• Accept the compliments as well as complaints alike from friends. With mistakes and critism we learn
• Dont think a friend is more special than other , and never ask any in your friends circle to compare your friends. I have been through this worst phase, (though lasted 10 sec ) but i still shrug on the question. 
• Say truth , and only truth to all your friends , or people you want to be friends with. 
• Lies has no life , broken mirrors hurt more than missing ones. 
• Create a alarm , and weekly calender to update them with what u do daily. 
• Try to loop them , chat to them ,drop mails , call them conference them , ask friends to update , stay in touch 
• TRUST ME .... make people trust you , and never break that. A broken trust is as bad as broken heart only with the difference heart can still be won back. 

And this post is titled deserted water , because i wanted to water the deserts of friends , to make us all a better person in future ... 

Comments appreciated . 

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झिलमिलाते हुवे गगन टिमटिमाते हुए तारे , तेज़ चलते हुए इस सुनसान सी सड़क पर , शहर की टिमटिमाती चकाचौंध से दूर , उस आकाश के पास जाते हुए , कड़कती बिजली में मुझे एक तारा दिखा । पता है क्या था वोह , वोह थी एक याद , उस रात की जब हम सोये नही थे । चले जा रहे थे एक साथ आखिरी बार शायद , पर रुके रुके से कदम अपनी रफ्तार से चल रहे थे , और कहीं पर थामे तो मानो वक्त पर अपना व्यकितव्य छोड़ते चले गए । ऐसा गहरा था उस रात का एक एहसास , चाय पीने से उस सितारों भरी रात में जब हम सब रुके। मौत से एक कदम दूर खड़े उस जहाँ को चीख चीख कर, चिल्ला चिल्ला केर बोल रहे थे , की केर ले जो कुछ करना है ,पर हम नही रुकेंगे । हम चलेंगे , और हम चले । ख़ुद भगवान् की आँख जैसे हमारे जज्बे को देख केर नम हो गई होगी। एक तरफ़ थी मेरे प्रिंसी और दूरी तरफ़ । दूसरी तो कोई तरफ़ ही नही थी , हाँ नमिता थी । और नमिता और प्रिंसी के बीच में खड़ा था में , मुझे तो पहचान ही लिया होगा , दीपक और हिमांशु । कोई अन्तर है क्या हम दोनों में। मेरी टांग में था ग़ज़ब का दर्द , और उस सर्द रात में होश उदा देनी वाली हवाएं मदहोश केर रही थी। पर था सहारा मेरा अपना ख़ुद का ( हिमांशु और मेरे में कोई अन्तर नही है :) ) । इन राहो पर खड़े हम यह ही सोच रहे थे की कितना हसीं यह लम्हा है , एक बार उमर में मिले है सब । शायद थी भी वोह मेरे जाने से एक महीने पहेले की घटना जिसमें हम सब पिस गए , उस गेहूं की तरह जो पिछली दो सदी में पकी थी , सिर्फ़ इस दिन के लिए जब हम सब एक रंग हो जाएँ। बीमार प्रिंसी और बिंदास आशु , कहीं पर मस्ती से भरपूर सोमू थी तो कहीं विनम्र नमी । और यहाँ खड़ा था में , पूरी दुनिया पर राज करने के लिए । एक दीपक । कहाँ से लाऊं में वोह सब दोस्त वापस , कहाँ से लाऊं में वोह जुस्तजू , कहाँ से लाऊं में वोह दिन दिसम्बर का , कहाँ से लॉन वोह रात तारो भरी , और कहाँ मिलेंगी इतनी टूट ते तारे , कहीं तो मिलेंगे ही , तलाशा । बहुत तलाशा , इस सुनसान सड़क पर कड़कती बिजली में , और फ़िर मुस्कुरा दिया ... क्यूँ । क्यूँ नही । साथ ही तो चल रहे है मेरे यह सब। यादो में बसते है और आँखों में उतारते है । तुम्हारे लिए सपना , हमारे लिए हकीकत ।